One of the things we hear a lot when growing up is to give people the benefit of the doubt but as we get older we see the same things happening again and again and the natural thing is to classify, judge and stereotype situations quickly. After all doing this is efficient and over the years often times your classifications, judgments, and stereotypes turned out right after all.
Successful people certainly learn from past experiences. But, they also realize it is dangerous to quickly dismiss people based on how a person dresses, initial conversation, or based on one person’s assessment. There are a number of things to be aware to avoid and this will help you in ensuring that you have good people habits.
Four things to avoid include the following:
- First impression: Be careful of first impressions with people. Do not make significant decisions off those first impressions. There are so many unknown factors in any meeting and understanding that we don’t know the full picture is important.
- Presume bad intent: People are generally good and are purposeful. Presume that a person has the right intentions. There will be cases when this presumption is wrong and once you have evidence that is the case act accordingly. However, quickly presuming bad intent in someone’s actions will result in poor relationships and generally result in you being wrong.
- Stereotyping: Even though stereotypes may prove correct sometimes avoid applying them to people. Stereotypes are dangerous, often times wrong, and if used incorrectly can make you look bad.
- Unwavering impression: Give people a chance to change. Don’t write a person off forever despite multiple bad impressions. People can always change and with time will often surprise you. We all go through different stages of our life and some of those stages are rough and don’t reflect the real us.
WLP Tip No. 4: Keep an open mind about people by not getting bogged down in first impressions, presuming bad intent, stereotyping, and impressions that do not change and be ready for people to surprise you because they often will.
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